For Self-Esteem & Perfectionism
Self-compassion is effective for low self-esteem/self-worth, as it teaches us how to accept our internal experiences, (thoughts and feelings) without judgment. Although most of us are very kind to strangers or friends, we struggle to turn this kindness inward; Perfectionism and people pleasing are two examples of low self-compassion and self-worth. Once we become more understanding and loving towards ourselves, we are able to reduce feelings of shame, guilt and self-blame, eventually quieting the inner critic. An additional caveat of self-compassion is an enhanced ability to understand and empathize with others.
Self-compassion is confused with selfishness in our society, and can take the form of judgment anytime we don't put others needs before our own. In fact, the majority of us have been taught that harsh self-criticism and negative self-talk are the best ways to motivate ourselves, when in fact this actually triggers our stress response system (fight or flight), making it more difficult to complete something. Compassionate therapy strives to reprogram this, instead relying on warmth and gentle guidance as a core motivator.
Self-compassion is the integrated into whatever therapy I provide and I have found it to be an essential ingredient for deep healing to take place. Self-compassion therapy with me can look like identifying and shifting the negative inner critical voice that might have developed from a partner or parents.
Life is hard enough as it is without us criticizing ourselves all the time -book a free consultation now to see how self-compassion can help you!